F: Two thumbs up for sport dates

A lot of my girlfriends aren’t sports fans; they many not think that a sporting event could be a romantic date, but I disagree. Whether it’s hockey, baseball, or football, sporting events really make the perfect date. One of the best dates I have even been on was to a Buffalo Sabers hockey game. It was when i first started seeing the guy, and it was a fun way to spend the evening together.

Sporting events can be a fun, no pressure environment, especially when you first start dating someone. Its a more relaxed setting then going out to dinner or to see a movie. While some girls may not think watching a game at home is fun, I think many girls would be surprised how fun it is to actually be at the game. To be honest, I much rather spend a Friday night watching a hockey or baseball game then head to a movie. Going to see a baseball game is definitely a great way to get to know someone better. You can actually talk and hang out with someone during a game, where as at a movie theater a couple really doesn’t have that opportunity.

Guys love sports almost as much as girls love shopping. So why not spent an afternoon at the ball park? Most guys find themselves more attractive to girls who have even a slight knowledge of sports.

I’ve heard it said that there are three things in life that unite people: religion, music and sports. And if you ask me, a sports game can really bring two people together.

Lisa Cialfi
Cicero, N.Y.

F: Handholding in public < Handholding in bed

Holding hands in public means sappy. An arm slung casually through the anchored elbow of your man seems infinitely preferable (and allows for the adorable head on shoulder move).

Even worse: the pinky grip. Usually in mid age couples, the Pinky Grip epitomizes the ultimate in grotesque physical contact. To elaborate seems pointless. Do not do it, it is disgusting.

In children, holding hands stacks right up there with kissing. Cooties! In summer camp and day care, we were forced to hold hands while walking (pair up!) on field trips (buddy system) and in many playground games and classroom activities. Heaven forbid we did not partner with our best girlfriend. Holding hands with boys was uncomfortable, scary, and definitely exciting. Children are in tuned to the primal connection of touching another person’s hand in a way that adults are too jaded to understand anymore.

The basic sexual nature of touching hands has been lost in the general acceptance of hand holding as respectable and polite in public society. But when really thought about, the fingertips are one of the most sensitive parts on the human body. People who have moved hand holding into the privacy of their own homes know what I mean. Not hand holding as in watching- a-movie-in-our-snuggies hand holding, but hand holding as in hands intertwined over our heads in bed hand holding. Anyone who has done this knows that you do not do it unless it’s with someone you really care about. It means something, to physically connect with someone from your fingertips all the way down.

Society has made holding hands an acceptable form of public affection, to the point of making it meaningless. Holding hands while walking doesn’t create sexual tension, it does not display closeness, it acts merely to show the rest of the street that you are a couple. I am holding his hand, so you cannot. In forcing it to be a status symbol, and not an actual physical connection, many people miss out on the delightful experiences private hand holding can give, both emotional and physical.

Kaitlyn Evans
Buffalo, N.Y.

M: I wanna hold your hand

You can’t beat it.

Holding hands is sometimes categorized as cliché, tacky, and too much PDA to some. Screw all that hogwash. Holding hands is great. Hanging with your girlfriend or special lady friend, walking and chit-chatting down the street, in the mall, or on the beach — hands locked in sync (not the boy-band).

It’s absolutely brilliant.

Plus, it's sort of an ego thing for guys too. Not bad ego, more like confidence. Some view handholding as the male acceptance of a woman’s emotional side, and others think it’s just lame. Although, handholding is all about confidence and being mature.

Nothing says, “I care about you, and don’t mind showing it,” like a good two hours of holding hands with your girlfriend before sitting down to a movie, or rollerblading lakeside in the mid-afternoon.

Sometimes guys think that they can’t look like caring, feminine, and weak figures. Those guys are usually single, desperate, and insecure, sorry to say. When in fact, women like a caring guy more than Mr. Macho. It's one thing to actually be the stereotypical mall drone who can’t go a day without getting dirty, plugging the toilet, or fighting in a sporting event. But, it’s another thing to show that you are a guy who’s comfortable with being sensual, loving, and supportive to the emotional needs of a woman.

If you care about your girl, want to fight less, want others to be jealous of you, and like getting attention — then holding hands is your forte. Do not be ashamed or embarrassed. Swallow your pride, and step up to the plate — your girlfriend will respect you for it.

Until next time,

Michael Masucci Jr.
Syracuse, N.Y.

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